Wendy is a 36 year old occupational therapist.  She’s been going out with her boyfriend, Jonathon, for a year and a half.  They’re both Christians, and they enjoy spending time together.  All Wendy’s friends and family really like Jonathan and hope they will get married.  Jonathon is crazy about Wendy and wants to marry her, but Wendy is a bit unsure.  She cares about Jonathan and thinks he’s a really good guy, but she doesn’t have gushy romantic feelings for him.  Her heart doesn’t pound when they kiss, and she’s not thinking about him all the time.   Wendy’s question is this: do you need the ‘in love’ feelings to make a marriage work, or is a strong friendship more important?

• How reliable are those ‘in love’ feelings?  Some people fall in and out of love every second week?  Do those feelings really mean anything? 
• Being in love can help you to overlook a person’s faults or bad habits… is that a positive thing in a marriage, or does it lead to incompatible partnerships?
• Can the feelings of being ‘in love’ really last anyway, or do they fade over time?
• If you’re not in love with your husband or wife, would that leave you more vulnerable to falling in love with someone else?