Our dilemma this week is from Anne – but I think it’s one that a lot of people can relate to.

Anne is feeling the pressure of two generations and a busy life. She has adult children still living at home – and an elderly mother – both of whom require her care and attention. Anne works full time, balancing housework and church commitments when she’s not at work.

But it's her elderly mother who is the major concern. She lives alone and is needing more and more care. Anne says she does as much as she can to help her mother, but it never seems to be enough. Her mother needs help around the home and with paying bills – as well as companionship. Anne feels that while she has very little time, her mother has plenty of time that she needs filled, which adds to the burden.

Anne’s dilemma is this – how can she ever find time for herself amidst the busyness of life? When she does have a free moment, she feels as though she should be spending more time with her mother. At what point should she say ‘enough’ and let go of other people’s needs? How do you establish boundaries when it comes to needy family members and your time, without hurting anyone in the process?